Matthoek21
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Wow! Really sad news. Just read about this. Prayers for the Hairston family...so tragic.
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mallardsx2
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I always thought suicide was one of the most selfish things a person could ever do. Its very hard on a family. I have seen it unravel in other peoples families before. One family locally had a lot of suicides and it was very sad to watch it all unravel.
Personally, I'm afraid of dying. My beliefs are my beliefs and I just dont truly know whats on the flip side. So I would ride life out and fight like a Siberian tiger until I didn't wake up one day.
But, having said that, I have never been to the breaking point. Especially if your terminally ill or dealing with a chronic pain. Maybe it would be easier to just end it instead of dragging your family through your demise? I just dont know. Because I have never been there.
Until then I will live it up the best I can and try to be a good husband and a good dad.
Hopefully his family is able to accept what decision he made.
Personally, I'm afraid of dying. My beliefs are my beliefs and I just dont truly know whats on the flip side. So I would ride life out and fight like a Siberian tiger until I didn't wake up one day.
But, having said that, I have never been to the breaking point. Especially if your terminally ill or dealing with a chronic pain. Maybe it would be easier to just end it instead of dragging your family through your demise? I just dont know. Because I have never been there.
Until then I will live it up the best I can and try to be a good husband and a good dad.
Hopefully his family is able to accept what decision he made.
mnhoundman
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I highly recommend reading this Field & Stream article...
https://www.fieldandstream.com/sportsmans-life-quicksand
https://www.fieldandstream.com/sportsmans-life-quicksand
labahertd
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This is a very sad thing. Unfortunately this happens way more then some people realize. CTE to PTSD to just being down and out. It happens everyday. 30+ years in the fire service I have seen it countless times.
So folks you you know someone that you think is struggling or if it?s you that is struggling please ask for help. There is absolutely nothing to be ashamed of.
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So folks you you know someone that you think is struggling or if it?s you that is struggling please ask for help. There is absolutely nothing to be ashamed of.
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Prerylyon
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I don't talk about this much; but of my 7 children, my 4 oldest boys are clinically diagnosed with mental illness. The age spread of all my kids is 19 yrs to 1-1/2 yrs.
Anxiety, depression, OCD, ADHD, ODD. We naively told ourselves "he'd grow out it" when people said, "he's so shy" or "my, he has such a temper". We waited too long to get the older boys help.
One of my sons has suicidal episodes. Another has anxiety so bad that he wouldn't leave his room if he was off his meds. You'd look at these boys and think they were perfectly normal; unless you experienced their demons 1st hand: panic attacks, unctrolled rage, self harm.
Don't let little problems turn in big ones. The right medecines and therapies can help. Unfortunately, there are not enough trained pyschiatric professionals to meet the needs of our mentally ill. I have dealt with our mental health system 1st hand, and there is a lot that could be better. Inpatient care is hard to receive and can require court commital due to waiting lists for beds. Best advice I can give is to be persistent in getting help for a loved one or a friend.
My 9yr old son has a similar diagnosis as one of his older brothers. He had a lot of issues when he was young. We started him on treatment a few yrs ago and he's a changed boy. No fits or breakdowns in over a yr.
The societal stigmas hanging over mental illness are yet another barrier. I have seen 1st hand how the correct treatment can help someone. Keep at it, and never give up trying to help someone close to you. They are hard conversations to have; but if something seems wrong, it probably is. Don't lose hope.
Regards,
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Anxiety, depression, OCD, ADHD, ODD. We naively told ourselves "he'd grow out it" when people said, "he's so shy" or "my, he has such a temper". We waited too long to get the older boys help.
One of my sons has suicidal episodes. Another has anxiety so bad that he wouldn't leave his room if he was off his meds. You'd look at these boys and think they were perfectly normal; unless you experienced their demons 1st hand: panic attacks, unctrolled rage, self harm.
Don't let little problems turn in big ones. The right medecines and therapies can help. Unfortunately, there are not enough trained pyschiatric professionals to meet the needs of our mentally ill. I have dealt with our mental health system 1st hand, and there is a lot that could be better. Inpatient care is hard to receive and can require court commital due to waiting lists for beds. Best advice I can give is to be persistent in getting help for a loved one or a friend.
My 9yr old son has a similar diagnosis as one of his older brothers. He had a lot of issues when he was young. We started him on treatment a few yrs ago and he's a changed boy. No fits or breakdowns in over a yr.
The societal stigmas hanging over mental illness are yet another barrier. I have seen 1st hand how the correct treatment can help someone. Keep at it, and never give up trying to help someone close to you. They are hard conversations to have; but if something seems wrong, it probably is. Don't lose hope.
Regards,
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hoshour
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There was a time in my life when I struggled terribly with depression and it was really hard on my family. I would not take meds because I was afraid of putting drugs in my brain, but in the end, for my family's sake I let the doc put me on an SSRI and that was all I needed, not counseling, just replacing an essential chemical. In a month I was my old self and smiling for the first time in a long time.
Never let yourself give in or give up. Find someone to help so you can get back on track for your family and fulfill the purpose for which God put you here.
I say that because I know what it is to wonder if the darkness will ever leave or if it is a too-heavy-to-bear life sentence. I've been there and back. You might can carry 100 lbs up and down hill on a pack out but sometimes what's in a 5 or 6 lb brain is heavier than an elk. If you're not there, don't judge, just try and get them out of the paralysis depression causes by getting them some help.
Never let yourself give in or give up. Find someone to help so you can get back on track for your family and fulfill the purpose for which God put you here.
I say that because I know what it is to wonder if the darkness will ever leave or if it is a too-heavy-to-bear life sentence. I've been there and back. You might can carry 100 lbs up and down hill on a pack out but sometimes what's in a 5 or 6 lb brain is heavier than an elk. If you're not there, don't judge, just try and get them out of the paralysis depression causes by getting them some help.
Here is an article that explains it all.
https://people.com/sports/jason-hairston-wife-speaks-out-about-cte/
https://people.com/sports/jason-hairston-wife-speaks-out-about-cte/
