Keep your chin up!

GOSHENGRUNTER

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2009 was a terrible year for me. I had just been promoted to a full time job making 45k, just married, and just bought a new car and moved into a new apartment. Life was good, until June. A series of bad events led to me losing my job, having a car repo'd and losing everything but my marriage. My gun safe went from 20 something guns to 1 old .22 my great grandpa gave me. I sold everything I had except my bow and camo. I was working 40+ hrs a week as contractor and bringing home about $200 a week after work expenses.

January of 2010 I made a grand total of $196. I worked $40 hr weeks but screwed up a door at work and had to pay $1200 to replace it. Life was hard. I worked out of a 95 F150 that was usually buried to the rim with old toilets, doors, and tools. I never stopped. My vehicle was breaking down along with my body and more importantly, my spirit. I was doing all I could to keep my head above water and the bills paid while my wife finished college. She had a full ride through a private college, so i wasn't even considering asking her to quit to work.

Years passed and we struggled. from 2010-2012 we lived off of deer meat, fish, and our garden. People say "oh yeah we live off wild game". I remember a day when we opened the freezer and it was empty. I went fishing and caught bluegill and a catfish. That was our meat for the WEEK. Depression set in and that never helps.

Somewhere along the way I was invited to bear hunt in NC with a guy I met through a friend. I saved and scrapped spare metal from jobs to pay for the tag. The guy was a great man and somehow knew how rough life was. He told me to keep my chin up and prayed with me. He even offered to show me his Ginseng patch and let me take some some, but I didn't.

Long story short, life was hard until my wife got a job after college. That gave me time to work on my career and get back into law enforcement full time. I still work 2 jobs but life has turned around. I checked my bank account today and was overdrawn- my guts twisted and gave me that old feeling of being dead broke. I went through some pictures and saw my old work vehicles and pics of my first trip to NC. Pretty uplifting to remember what it was like to be so down. I opened my freezer and saw about 40 pounds of red meat left from Wyoming. Then I realized I went from being dead broke to being able to take trips to Wyoming last year, NC a few times, and Utah this year.

I don't know if any of you are having it tough right now, but I fell like someone may need to read this. What seems so far in the past for me was just 2 years ago. Life can change fast! Keep your chin up!

Here's some pics of my old truck and work van. Thats a weeks worth of work in my truck i never had time to empty or scrap!

The pic on the roof was a day of work, Someone broke into my car and stole my belt. I used a piece of soft copper for a belt for a few days!
 

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Bonecollector

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Life seems unbearable at the time we move through these trials, but amazing how distant it all seems once we're through them.
I can relate to your story starting out just....wow it's been 20 years. See what I mean. Good luck fellow Buckeye.
~Bill
 

Don K

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Takes a lot to come on here and tell your story, thanks for sharing it.

" the measure of a man is not what he accomplishes but rather what it takes to discourage him "
 

sneakypete

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Great life story , but the real story is how you and your wife made it thru the tough times and came out of it with your marriage, her education and your career changes!
 

go_deep

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Well done sir!

I also was sucking hind tit not that long ago, but the struggles me and my family went through together made us a damn fine family. Nice to know you got a strong woman to stand there with you thick or thin.
 

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Wow!!! That's a very inspiring story. I hope Wyoming gives you all the tags you put in for this year. Times have been very tough on a lot of hard working people over the past six years. I went to school in Indiana. Very good hard working people in that area, IN, IL, WI and OH. Lots of friends back there have been struggling. Way to keep your head up and fight through the tough times. Best of luck this fall on your hunts. You deserve a little bit of a break. -G
 

GOSHENGRUNTER

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Well done sir!

I also was sucking hind tit not that long ago, but the struggles me and my family went through together made us a damn fine family. Nice to know you got a strong woman to stand there with you thick or thin.
Thanks everyone. And the lessons we learned are priceless. My wife has been awesome, it'll be 7 years married this September. To show how great she is - today i was telling her i put in for time off for Utah and she said "Well make sure you take off plenty of time, you should go for at least 2 weeks. Can you buy any other tags while your out there?"

haha I'm pretty sure she isn't trying to get rid of me ;-) I think she just really likes venison!
 

ElkTrout

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Way to keep your head up! Things aren't always easy but in time you will be rewarded for your hard work! Thanks for sharing!


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CrossCreeks

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I think most of us have had similar experiences although maybe not as tough time as you have encounter. I know I had tough times after getting married. Great story and great no quit attitude. You should be proud !!

( I would have had to kept the belt as a reminder :eek: )
 
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11C50

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By the very nature of this forum I think it draws folks who are more focused, driven and ambititous than many in the overall population, and your story exemplifies that. CONGRATULATIONS for your character and work ethic. The story of my wife's and mine starting out is somewhat similar. I worked three jobs for over 20 years, and we lifted ourselves up by our bootstraps as well
, while my wife worked and raised our children almost single handedly due to my seemingly constant travel.
 

25contender

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This made me remember the first few year after my wife and I were married. Looking back it doesn't seem that long ago but it will be 32 years next month anniversary. Times like that will make you appreciate all the years ahead of you. Even thou times were tough we still had a lot of good times during that period. Glad you and your wife pulled through the tough times.
 

tim

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I just related this to my warhouse manager, who is probably one of the hardest working people I know. I gave him this story after he showed up early to get stuff done, because he was always behind. I am not a good typist, so bear with me.

so a guy needs a job, he sees an older guy splitting wood. the guy asks the older guy if he can split wood for the older gent. the older gent says yes, hands him the axe and the young guy splits wood. the young guy splits a lot of wood, because he needs a job. the older guy is impressed with his work ethic and gives him the job. a couple of days go by and the older guys is even more impressed, but than the next week comes and the young guy is just not splitting enough wood anymore. The young guy starts showing up early and leaving late, but is always behind. the young guy can't figure out what is going on. the young guy is showing up early working late, skipping lunch and is just not nearly as productive as he once was.
The old guy is seeing how his employee is just not getting the job done anymore. So he stops to talk with the young guy. the young guy is telling the old man, he works hard, works late, shows up early and he can't figure out why his work is decling. So the old guy looks at the young guy and asks" when did you sharpen the axe last?" the young guy looked at him, with the what are you talking about look. so the old guy explains that if you sharpen the axe, the wood will cut easier, and the young guy did that and the next day his productivity was back where it once was.

Have you taken the time to sharpen your axe?
 

Sawfish

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This made me remember the first few year after my wife and I were married. Looking back it doesn't seem that long ago but it will be 32 years next month anniversary. Times like that will make you appreciate all the years ahead of you. Even thou times were tough we still had a lot of good times during that period. Glad you and your wife pulled through the tough times.
Congratulations on your 32nd. We will have our 31st this year. A Husband and Wife can overcome unspeakable hardships as long as they pull together.