A person's pupil size varies according to the light. It gets smaller when there is more light and vice versa. But there is a limit it can reach in terms of getting larger, called the maximum pupil size.
The maximum pupil size is 5-9mm under age 25 and decreases with time but varies a great deal among individuals of the same age. At 42, your's may be 4.5 or 6.5. Your doctor can measure your maximum pupil size when you have your next eye exam. Or, you might call, he may have it recorded from your last visit.
You can also measure your's in a room that has been dark for a good 15 minutes. Have your wife hold up to your eye a ruler with millimeters on it while the room stays very dimly lit. It's pretty rough, but better than nothing.
Slugz is correct, if you buy glass with an exit pupil larger than your maximum pupil size, you are needlessly adding weight and probably expense.
But, if you think about it, if your max pupil size is 6, then you would need 10x60 to get all the available light and since I don't know of any binos like that, it's not practical at 10x. If you wanted all the light your eye would allow, you would get it with an 8x50. So, there's a tradeoff between more weight and brightness on the one hand and magnification on the other.
You can see that when you change the magnification on your spotting scope. As the magnification gets higher, the exit pupil gets smaller and the image gets darker.